How To Free Yourself From Mental Slavery

By Mark Weeks

By Mark weeks

Napoleon Bonaparte once wrote, ‘The human race is governed by its imagination.’ I’m pretty confident in stating, he believed the majority of people possessed poor imaginations. And, for many people today their imaginations are still not good government. The ‘imagination’ quickly becomes a dictator, and an unnecessary instrument for their own failings.

By not using your imagination positively and creatively you run the risk of being enslaved by it. Imagination has a tendency to run out of control, more often than not culminating in poor self-image and lack of confidence.

The good news is, it’s easy to take control of your imagination if you focus on it. It’s a scientific fact that the brain and nervous system cannot tell the difference between what is real and what is vividly imagined.

The first step in freeing yourself from mental slavery, and the most important, is to imagine the outcome you want and not what you don’t want. Why? Your brain tells you what to do in the future based on its knowledge in the past. And, the only way to see the future is through the power of your imagination.

You have to have the courage to break the cycle. None of us know everything, so why should the past be a reflection of your tomorrow?

Too often, people don’t exercise the control they have and allow their imaginations to destroy their potential – because they picture situations in the past where they have failed. They’re simply not using the power of visualisation to their advantage. Instead of bringing the past into the present you must practice bringing the future into the present.

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Instead of bringing the past into the present you must practice bringing the future into the present.

I like this short exercise I came across years ago …

Think of a car. Your mind will quite naturally see a car quickly, but it will probably be a hazy picture. If you were asked to describe the car properly you will refocus, because you’re giving clearer instructions. Most likely you will describe your own car. That’s the way most of us tend to respond in life; from our own experiences of the past.

Our minds get by on the minimum of effort, after all, they have a lot to contend with throughout the day!

But, if you desire a car, and have set your heart upon obtaining it, you must see the type of car you want down to the last detail.

At the next opportunity go into a show room, sit in the car of your dreams, take in the smell of the leather interior and feel the steering wheel. Own the picture in your mind, ‘This car is mine!’ If possible, go for a test drive. You might be surprised that you notice more of your cars on the road, once your subconscious mind is truly activated.

Try using this approach to the things you desire – but, be careful what you wish for:)

You may have come across the science known as NLP – Neuro-Linguistic Programming, first developed by scientists Richard Bandler and John Grinder. It’s a powerful methodology on visualisation, and I urge you to either re-visit or learn the techniques and utilise them over time.

What you feed your mind is critical to your success and happiness. And, the place to get the ball rolling and building momentum is through visualising a better tomorrow. The German writer Goethe said it best, ‘Before you can do something, you must become something.’ It’s as simple as that. You must be and act, before you become.

Allow yourself time every day to visualise, imagine and concentrate on what you want in life. Life is far from perfect, but trying to work some type of visualisation into your routine is a must. I tend to do better early in the mornings before I start my work day.

I also find time for a longer meditation on Sundays, which I incorporate into my weight training sessions. However life is working out for you at this moment in time do your future self a big favour and believe in a better day tomorrow. Five minutes a day now will reap a brighter future.

In my Amazon best seller – Soul of a Dream Catcher, set in worn torn Italy in 1948, Peter urges Emiliana to stimulate her imagination. Here’s a couple of lines you might relate to …

‘So, what would you do? Come on Emiliana, let your imagination go.’

‘Hmmm … you know I’m no good at this sort of thing. That’s why I leave the dreaming to you.’

‘Please try, everything ever achieved starts with a dream.’

‘I can’t, I just feel silly,’ she pleaded.

Peters voice strained a little, ‘If you can’t even imagine a different life how will you ever get one?’ Feeling tired from her continual lack of imagination he added, ‘If you keep on doing the same thing every day of your life, you’ll keep getting the same thing, over and over again.’

‘Okay, okay don’t go on, I get it,’ she said angrily, though refusing to admit she did not get ‘it’. ‘I don’t want to end up like my mother … there, I’ve said it. I don’t want to end up sad and lonely, being a slave to the whims of others. I … I want to prove to her life goes on outside of this bloody village.’

Peter finally got the reaction he was looking for and prodded further with sadistic delight. ‘Maybe your mother is happy. Have you ever asked her?’ He tormented.

Take away lesson: Only you can free you from mental slavery.

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Benefits of Drinking Warm Water

By Tonny Wandella

It is healthy to drink water at any reasonable temperature. Water makes up more than half of your body. Your body’s water supply is depleted by almost everything you do. Some advantages are exclusive to hot and warm water, and you might be surprised. When we say hot, we’re talking about water that’s between 130 and 160 degrees Fahrenheit (54 and 71 degrees Celsius). Water that is hotter than this should not be consumed. There are no health issues that can be solved by scalding your mouth and throat. It’s worth noting that the majority of the evidence for these benefits is based on anecdotal evidence. In many cases, the hard scientific jury is still out.

Helps With Constipation

Constipation can be caused by a variety of factors, one of which is dehydration. Drinking water at any temperature can help you move your bowels again by disintegrating all that clogged-up poop.   Anyone who has had to clean a fast-food grill knows that warm water is better than cold water at breaking down debris. There’s some science behind the fry-cook wisdom, too, according to studies. Constipation can be relieved with water of any temperature, but warm water is preferable.

Shivering is Reduced by Drinking Warm Water.

You shiver when you’re cold. It’s one of your body’s attempts to warm itself up. It’s not a nice sensation, and it may be a pain in the neck for people like telecom engineers who have to perform duties that require steady hands in subzero temperatures. Drinking a hot beverage helps stop or minimise shivering when you’re chilly, according to scientific findings. The core temperature of your body is raised by drinking warm water. This satisfies your body’s heat management reflexes enough to temporarily stop the shivering and shakes.

For a Smooth Digestion, Drink Warm Water.

The advantages of warm water for your digestive tract may extend beyond bowel movements. Warm water is helpful for the digestive tract, according to the same studies that demonstrate it can aid with constipation.

Your entire gastrointestinal system is designed to break down food. If warm water aids in the breakdown of substances, having it in your guts will make their job much easier. Warm water dissolves things far faster than cold water, as we know from physics. This includes sugar, which is infamous for being difficult to digest.

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Cold Water Bath Benefits

By Tonny Wandella

Taking cold showers has been shown to boost your immune system as well as make you highly resistant to illness, according to studies. Cold showers were found to reduce the number of people who called in ill to work by 29% in a clinical investigation in the Netherlands. Another study linked cold showers to a higher chance of surviving cancer.

The cold water puts a strain on your body. When you come into contact with freezing water, your body’s natural reaction is to go into survival mode. The cold water shock sends your circulatory system into frenzy. To warm your core and safeguard key organs, your body boosts blood flow. At the same time, it reduces blood flow around your skin.

Cold water plunge for sports performance has been well established and is widely used by high-level sportsmen that require quick recovery. To minimise inflammation and speed healing, athletes often sit in an ice bath for 10-15 minutes.

Taking cold showers on a regular basis places a little amount of stress on your body, which causes stiffening. This means that your nervous system adapts to modest levels of stress over time. When you’re in a stressful circumstance, the hardening process will assist you maintain your composure.

To bear the cold for long periods of time requires a strong mind. You improve your willpower by including cold showers into your regular routine, which benefits many elements of (your) everyday life.

We can absolutely get on board with a cold shower, and it’s as simple as turning the faucet the opposite way. Even better, it will not only improve your life performance and quality in one fell swoop, but it will also save you much on your power bills and benefit the environment.

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Genghis Khan’s Elixir

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By Mark Weeks – Author of Code of the Conqueror – The Journey

Many, many blood-thirsty moons ago in the year 1222, the Great Khan readied himself to meet with the Master Taoist, Changchun; who was said to be three hundred years old and held the elixir of life in his palms.

Genghis, approaching sixty, had grown painfully aware of his own mortality with every passing season. And now, intrigued by his chief-advisor, Yelu-Chucai’s incessant claims that the Master could teach him the secrets of longevity, requested an audience.

After nearly four years of traveling the grasslands of Central Asia and covering some ten-thousand kilometres from his temple on the Shandong peninsula, the time had finally arrived for the Master to reveal all.

Inside the great yurt, with the heat of early summer pressing down upon them in the Afghan mountains, the Great Khan welcomed his guest. Genghis sat cross-legged on a broad gold throne, his hair, moustache and goatee were now completely white. But, his eyes still blazed as they had always done, fierce enough to paralyse the boldest of hearts.

They spoke through an interpreter, as the frail Master described himself as a mere hermit of the mountains and pronounced it was the will of Heaven that they that they should finally meet. The privileged onlookers had difficulty in seeing who was more in awe of the other.

Genghis asked respectfully, ‘What medicine of Long Life have you brought me from afar?’ The Master replied, ‘I have means of protecting life, but no elixir that will prolong it.’

Far from being distraught, the Great Khan was pleased with the Master’s candour and instead readied himself for the main purpose of the trip, as conceived by Yelu-Chucai. And, this was to receive the Holy Immortal, as Genghis called him, and accept instruction on good living and good ruling. This, he believed would energise his whole being. The visit culminated in a discourse by Changchun on the Dao, the Way that underpins all things in Heaven and Earth.

In November 1222 Genghis had part of this discourse recorded for history in both Mongolian and Chinese, which reads…

When Man was first born, he shone with a holy radiance and his step was light. But his appetite and longing were so keen that his body grew heavy, his holy light dim, his life essence unbalanced. Those who study Dao seek to regain that balance by quietism, asceticism and meditation. In this lay the true elixir of long life.

The Master also advised the Khan to curb his appetite, live without desires, reject luscious tastes, eat only foods that are fresh and light, and abstain from lust. Genghis gave Changchun a thoughtful nod and run his forefinger and thumb through the length of his grey goatee. But it was the last piece of advice that gave cause for a slight smirk on the weathered face of the Great Khan. ‘Try sleeping alone for a month.’ The Master recommended, ‘You will be pleasantly surprised of your new-found energy levels if adhered to.’

The conqueror and the sage held a further long meeting, where Changchun tried drawing Genghis towards a more civilised way of life for his people. And, once when hunting together, Genghis fell heavily from his horse. This earned a mild reproof from the Master, who told him it was time for a man of his years to take greater care of himself and avoid such risks.

For several months, the Great Khan listened. But, for a warrior born in the saddle, he must die in the saddle. After all, everyman returns to his own truth. And after his second fall a few years later he was to die from internal injuries in the year 1227, amongst his army, his horde.

Unfortunately, as we all know today, there is no true elixir of life. Death is the one dominant trait we all share with one another.

Finally, let me share these words from my book Code of the Conqueror – The Journey, when the wise old Zhi was discussing ‘energy’ with Alex.

‘Your energy will not last forever. The time will come soon enough for you to take your last breath. When the time does arrive, be not like those whose hearts are filled with dread and fear. When their time comes, they weep and pray for a little extra time to live their lives over again— only differently. Instead, hold your head high, do not fear death. Sing your death song and let your energy fade with humility and grace. Then, and only then, die like a conquering hero returning home from your journey of life.’

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How To Cultivate A Sense Of Gratitude In Yourself

By Tonny Wandella

Because of its evident truth and pleasant feel, grateful individuals are happier—this seems like wisdom you’d see on a bumper sign, yet research on gratitude backs up this statement. It can be a fantastic feeling if someone does anything for you which fills your heart with thankful feelings of warmth.

The following are tried-and-true methods for increasing gratitude in your life and relationships. Some of them are easy activities that you can undertake on your own for a one-time burst of happiness, while others are activities that may be done on a daily basis to improve your mood. One or two of them are big gestures you’ll remember for a long time. Whatever you’re looking for, think about the following ideas and see how they can help you live a happier life.

Be Wary of Making Comparisons

Envy may strike anyone at any time—someone receives a position we thought we were destined for, someone has the “ideal” relationship or amazingly well-behaved children we’ve always wished for, or someone just appears to always have what we’re striving for (and not receiving) in our own lives. Those who are prone to envy usually compare the worst aspects of their own life to the finest aspects of another’s—we rarely wish to trade complete lives with others, but rather wish we had that one item that they have that would make us much complete. Alternatively, we compare their finest day, quality, or situation to our worst.

Most of us are aware of the importance of thanking those who assist us or discreetly acknowledging the things for which we are grateful. As previously said, gratitude has been connected to a variety of benefits, like strengthening your immune system or improving sleep patterns, feeling positive and feeling more pleasure and joy, being more helping and generous, and being less lonely and isolated, according to study.

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How to Keep Your Goals on Track

By Tonny Wandella

You were ecstatic to keep track of your objectives. Of course, that feels like a long time ago, and let’s be honest, the zeal has faded a little. You’re frustrated because your goals were either difficult to remember, didn’t feel relevant to your task, or just skipped your mind when you were working hard. You could assume that making objectives isn’t for you, but that isn’t the case. Here’s how to get back on track with your goals right now.

Here Are some ways that can help you stay focused on your goals:

Listen To Your Self-Conversation.

Since you are the one who is listening, how you speak to yourself is crucial. Many of us make the mistake of focusing on what we don’t want, thus increasing our chances of derailment. When you’re driving a car, where does the automobile deviate if you’re concentrating on the tree you don’t want to strike instead of the centre of the road? “I’m glad to feel good each day,” rather than the “I’m wary of being unwell,” remark. Rather than focusing on your low pay, say something like, “I am open to new opportunities to earn money.”

Visualize Your Dreams.

Do you have a strong desire to travel to Italy? Do you want to get stronger by trying a new workout? By the end of the year, have you found love? You can construct a virtual vision board of images that motivate and inspire you (in minutes!) using Pinterest. Allow yourself to be moved by the photographs, and be willing to include ones that pique your interest in unexpected ways.

Gain Clarity

The term “clarity” refers to the goals that have been set, implying that you understand precisely what you want to accomplish. When a goal is defined, it is easier to determine when it has been met. Setting a broad objective, such as “exercise more,” on the other hand, is less inspiring and more difficult to determine when the goal has been met. Has the aim been met if you “exercise more” just one day a week? How frequently would you like to work out? How long will you be there? What does “more” mean to you?

Are You Ready to Stay Committed?

Setting goals is an excellent approach to motivating yourself to try new things and make positive changes in your life. The importance of goal setting cannot be overstated, yet creating goals is the easy part; sticking to them is the difficult part.

It might be difficult to devote the time and effort necessary to achieve our objectives, and it is sometimes simpler to give up than to persevere. Staying on track with your goals, on the other hand, provides numerous advantages, including a higher probability of achievement and enhanced mental health.

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Conquering An Anxious Mind.

By Mark Weeks

Your mind will never improve by chance, you must keep it in shape, like a muscle – it must be worked positively, nourished and rested often.

And, your life long quest is to remain vigilant to what you let enter into it. That is, if you wish to live with reduced anxiety, stress and self-imposed limitations.

Of course, we all have bouts of anxiety and burdening stress-levels, from time to time, it’s part of life. Many people weather the storm and calmer moments eventually come.

But it’s a scary fact, that today, nearly 40 million Americans live with an anxiety disorder, which is more than the occasional worry or fear.

Anxiety disorders can range from a generalized anxiety disorder (GAD), which is intense worrying that you can’t control, to panic disorder. Such as sudden episodes of fear, along with heart palpitations, trembling, shaking, or sweating.

For those with an anxiety disorder, it’s important to look into strategies that can help manage or reduce anxiety in the long term, such as therapy or medication.

However, everyone can benefit from other ways to reduce stress and anxiety with lifestyle changes such as eating a well-balanced diet, limiting alcohol and caffeine, plus taking time-out for yourself.

Give these 10 simple steps a read through and file them for a rainy day. They are proven to relax your mind and help you regain control of your thoughts. Pick one strategy at a time and see if it suits you.

After all, life is a continuous journey of discovering what works and discarding the stuff that serves no purpose.

1. Stay in your time zone.

Anxiety is a future-oriented state of mind. So instead of worrying about what’s going to happen, ‘reel yourself back to the present,’ says Tamar Chansky, Ph.D., a psychologist and author of Freeing Yourself from Anxiety. Ask yourself: What’s happening right now? Am I safe? Is there something I need to do right now? If not, make an “appointment” to check in with yourself later in the day to revisit your worries so those distant scenarios don’t throw you off track, she says.

2. Relabel what’s happening.

Panic attacks can often make you feel like you’re dying or having a heart attack. Remind yourself: ‘I’m having a panic attack, but it’s harmless, it’s temporary, and there’s nothing I need to do,’ Chansky says. Plus, keep in mind it really is the opposite of a sign of impending death – your body is activating its fight-or-flight response, the system that’s going to keep you alive, she says.

3. Fact-check your thoughts.

People with anxiety often fixate on worst-case scenarios, Chansky says. To combat these worries, think about how realistic they are. Say you’re nervous about a big presentation at work. Rather than think, ‘I’m going to bomb,’ for example, say, ‘I’m nervous, but I’m prepared. Some things will go well, and some may not,’ she suggests. Getting into a pattern of rethinking your fears helps train your brain to come up with a rational way to deal with your anxious thoughts.

4. Breathe in and out.

Deep breathing helps you calm down. While you may have heard about specific breathing exercises, you don’t need to worry about counting out a certain number of breaths, Chansky says. Instead just focus on evenly inhaling and exhaling. This will help slow down and re-centre your mind, she says.

5. Follow the 3-3-3 rule.

Look around you and name three things you see. Then, name three sounds you hear. Finally, move three parts of your body – your ankle, fingers, or arm. Whenever you feel your brain going 100 miles per hour, this mental trick can help centre your mind, bringing you back to the present moment, Chansky says.

6. Just do something.

Stand up, take a walk, clear away things on your desk – any action that interrupts your train of thought helps you regain a sense of control.

7. Stand up straight.

‘When we are anxious, we protect our upper body – where our heart and lungs are located – by hunching over,’ Chansky says. For an immediate physical antidote to this natural reaction, pull your shoulders back, stand or sit with your feet apart, and open your chest. This helps your body start to sense that it’s back in control, she says.

8. Stay away from sugar.

It’s tempting to reach for something sweet when you’re stressed, but that chocolate bar can do more harm than good; research shows eating too much sugar can worsen anxious feelings. Instead of reaching into the biscuit tin, drink a glass of water or eat protein, Chansky says, this will provide a slow energy your body can use to recover.

9. Ask for a second opinion.

Call or text a friend or family member and run through your worries with them, Chansky says. ‘Saying them aloud to someone else can help you see them clearly for what they are.’ It can also help to write your fears on paper, no one else needs to read them. They may also help you reflect how far you’ve come in 6 months’ time too!

10. Watch a funny video.

This final tactic may be the easiest one yet. Create a comedy list on YouTube and add your favourites to it. Laughing is a good prescription for an anxious mind. Research shows laughter has lots of benefits for our mental health and well-being; one study found that humour could help lower anxiety as much as (or even more than) exercise can.

Adapt these tips to how you’re feeling and keep taking baby steps. Recognise when things need to be worked on and don’t bury your head where the sun doesn’t shine!

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How Little Improvements in Life Matter

By Wandella Tonny

Daily progress is the strategy of making small, consistent improvements every day in order to achieve significant long-term results. While many people think of kaizen as a one-week event, it has far more impact when the entire workforce participates in daily continuous improvement.

Every day, small changes and improvements have a significant impact on performance. Make a goal for yourself, and encourage others to do the same. It does not need to be large. A daily improvement of less than 0.5 percent gets you over 8% better at the end of the month, and over a year, you’ll be 250 percent better.

How can You make minor gains on a daily basis?

Begin slowly and gradually increase your weight. Avoid getting impatient and starting to push forward and take bigger leaps. Slowly, steadily, and consistently move forward. Simply strive to improve on the previous day’s performance. The punchline is as follows: If you improve one percent every day for a year, you’ll be 37 times better by the end.

There are several instances of big and minor acts that have the potential to generate change in our lives if we just practiced them more consistently. Workouts are never missed. Performing basic business tasks on a daily basis, not just when you have time. More frequently apologizing Every week, write Thank You notes.

Progress is frequently hidden behind mundane solutions and underutilized insights. You do not require any other information. You don’t require a better strategy. All you have to do is do more of what is currently working.

We frequently assess our performance by looking ahead. We set objectives. We set goals for ourselves and set benchmarks for our progress. In essence, we attempt to forecast the future to some extent. There is an alternative, which I believe is more useful: measure backwards rather than forwards. When you measure backward, you’re making decisions based on how it has already occurred rather than what you want to occur.

Start Today

All you have to do to anticipate where you’ll wind up in life is follow the curve of modest gains or losses and watch how your everyday decisions compound 10 to 20 years down the road. Do you spend less each month than you earn? Do you go to the gym at least once a week? Are you reading a book every day and learning anything new? These are the small battles that will designate your future self.

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3 Endurance-Building Techniques Approved by Trainers

By Tonny Wandella

Endurance is something to attained through discipline and hard work. This is to say a few individuals have the natural gift of endurance, other like us we need to work for it. Lets dive in.

Avoid food prophets who aren’t genuine.

However, not all foods are made equal, and some of those offering tantalizing benefits to your stamina may not be what they seem. There are claims that energy drinks can help you perform better, but evidence shows they have very little therapeutic value. Probiotic pills, which are typically advertised as being able to increase stamina, were likewise found to have no effect.

Experiment with new things.

Running and weightlifting are obvious stamina-building exercises, but you can also benefit from doing some less traditional exercises. Yoga, for example, may improve endurance levels significantly – yet another reason to venture out from your dull daily run.

Take care of your mental wellness.

Stamina isn’t simply about physical strength; your mental attitude plays a role as well. A stress management workshop that included the teaching of stamina-increasing strategies was found to have a good effect on both participants’ stamina and stress levels in one study, while preliminary research has tentatively linked pleasant emotions in elite athletes to peak performance. Meditation improved participants’ levels of exhaustion, as well as emotions of tranquility and attention, according to a study on yoga’s impact on stamina.

What would you improve if you had to pick only one aspect of fitness to work on? You’re probably thinking about working on your strength, endurance, or agility, which are all worthwhile objectives to pursue.

However, there is one underappreciated fitness factor: stamina, which integrates numerous fitness components into one. Consider working on your stamina if you want to get the most bang for your exercise budget.

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Revisiting The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People. Part 1

By Mark Weeks

The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People, by Stephen R. Covey, is classed as the No.1 most influential business book of the Twentieth Century, and I feel it’s more than worthy of a revisit.

A long, long, long time before podcasts I would listen to the CD constantly as I drove. It had such a positive impact on me back in the day, hope you enjoy this short recap.

Over the years my life has been centred upon mindset development. And, as I built my construction company to over 50 sub-contractors I soon realised I needed to understand, motivate and lead others.

Eventually I did improve, nonetheless, I appreciated it would be a never-ending quest of continuous improvement to master human behaviour. And one I’m still passionately following.

The Emotional Bank Account!

Of course, knowledge, expertise, and know-how of your chosen profession is paramount to your success, and there’s little I can share in improving the tasks you implement every day, you know your business.

But, do you truly maintain the correct interpersonal skills with your customers, workforce or family? Is your emotional bank account running in the black or is it deep in the red?

Before Stephen R. Covey reveals the 7 Habits he goes deep into the expectations of implementing the habits, if they are followed diligently.

The key expectations of creating the habits…

  • Improved self-confidence.
  • Improved relationships.
  • Improved capacity to influence others.
  • Renew your spirit of adventure.

He makes it very clear, his programme is not a quick-fix, it’s an evolution; that is, if you’re willing to pay the price by learning, teaching and doing.

He would have cringed from the overuse of the term ‘life hack’ these days. There are no shortcuts to self-improvement. There is no quick fix to living your life of purpose.

In much the same tone as Dr. Wayne Dyer’s, ‘If you change the way you look at things the things you look at change’ quote. Covey uses the term of changing ‘your paradigm’, this slight shift in the way you think about things will have a dramatic effect upon your life.

Think of how you are using your emotional bank account – The Bank Of You PLC? There’s been much work on the benefits of psychological contracts, and if it interests you dig deep, there’s plenty of information out there.

But for now, Covey’s definition of an emotional bank account is where we make ’emotional’ deposits and withdrawals day in and day out. Kind of obvious, but have you noticed how many people ignore these principles?

Every interaction you have has an effect on how others treat you. From the perceptions of your customers, employees, spouse, to your children.

Imagine every time you are unkind, insensitive, and dishonest you’ll be making a withdrawal from ‘the bank’ (As if you would:).

And, every time you deliver more than you promise, act kindly and generously you are building up your ’emotional account’. Simple hey?

Okay, there will be times no matter how kind and considerate you are where people will deceive and try to humiliate you. That’s their ‘account’ terminated.

But for you, you must continue to build up your account, there’s no other way than making lasting goodwill deposits.

That’s enough for Part One – I’ll post the rest when I’ve made it up:)

Also, you might like to listen to the audiobook of The 7 Habits on YouTube, here’s the link …

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